Today I saw a photo of Ahmad forwarded by my friend. He is an Arab who used to live here and moved to Canada 3 years ago. A close friend of my husband’s once invited me and my husband to dinner where Ahmad and his girlfriend, Sarah were also invited. Ahmad didn’t introduce Sarah to us properly, so we dared not to ask him who she was. Sarah was obviously Muslim as she was wearing a head scarf. She told me she had learned to cook Arabic food for Ahmad and that the head scarf she was wearing was a gift from Ahmad’s brother. I didn’t care if she was married to Ahmad. Anyway she acted like she was Ahmad’s wife.
One year went by. I learned from my husband’s friend who had invited us to dinner that Ahmad left Sarah here and immigrated to Canada. He also told me that Sarah was in bad shape as she missed Ahmad so much. I simply couldn’t believe that Ahmad didn’t even consider taking Sarah to Canada. What I felt angry was that a few months after Ahmad moved to Canada, he went back home. His family had chosen a few girls for him so that he could choose his wife among them. When he came back to Canada, he brought his wife with him. Now they have a baby. Ahmad’s wife would never know about Sarah whose life was destroyed by her insincere husband.
Ahmad is not the only one that has done this kind of thing. I know at least 2 more Arab men who did the same thing. I always wonder if they have any guilt. The strangest thing about these men is that they always end up marrying a woman from the same country and that they demand a virgin wife, which makes me laugh always. The men are not virgin and yet they demand virgin girls. That is sick mentality of Arabs. When I see them praying, I always think “You don’t go to heaven definitely.”
3 comments:
let me tell you why alot of Arab guys dont marry their girlfriends .
they think that if she accepted to be in a relationship with a guy that he's not her husband she's not worth trusting and if she did with him she will do it with someone else .
To ahmed banjar:
Thanks for your comment. Actually many of my Arab male friends say the same thing as you say but still as a non-Arab woman, I can't understand what you say, or to be precise, I can't accept what you say though I take it as an opinion. Those girls dating Arab boys are really in love with them, not cheating on other men and hoping to get married to them one day, which is very normal in a relation between a man and a woman. I have seen some successful cases where Arab boys married their girlfriends, and I am one of them. Seeing my Arab male friends, I always wonder why it is hard for them to trust women.....No offence, pls, ahmad banjar. I really appreciated your comment.
well what i said in my comment is whats goin on inside a common arab guy's mind, its not what i think about dating,
i believe that being a male shouldn't give me any advantage over the females, but is this is the case in the arab world i dont think so, we are a male dominating society.
i agree with you regarding the dating issue i am dating a girl and i dated girls before. and although i am not thinking about getting married any time soon but the girl i will marry will be some one i dated.
anyway this is not the right place to talk about my self or to discuses my personal life and my believes .
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